Time to revisit this very relevant and potentially quality of life changing topic.
Hmmm, these words just tumble out of our mouths without any regard to what they mean. You don’t have time? Really?
Time is all you have!
What you do with it and how you spend it is your choice, but all you have is time! You may have 80 years as I mentioned in a prior blog post, that’s 42,048,000 minutes, or you may have a day, 14,400 minutes. We don’t really know. What we do know is that we can spend it consciously or waste it unconsciously. The choice is yours.
When we say we don’t have time, we are not choosing consciously. Of course there are more things to do than there is time to experience them all. But that is not what you mean when you say I don’t have time. What we generally mean is, I have too much on my plate and I am not able to do everything I want. Just as often we mean, I am going to use this as an excuse to not do something I don’t want to do, since we tend to avoid doing things we don’t like doing.
Generally, it is a reflection of how you are choosing to live your life. Your life on this planet is your time on this planet. Using this time in a way that brings you satisfaction, fulfillment, joy, adventure, play, growth and peace requires intentionality and creativity. It is about taking ownership of your life – YOUR TIME!
So often I see people, from all walks of life, live as if something from outside of them is driving them. The pressure to achieve the ‘next thing’ overtakes their ability to choose what they really want to do or experience in their day to day life. They often forget they have a choice, that they are the creators of their lives.
This way of being has been programmed into our minds when our parents schlepped us from one thing to another, often making us do things we didn’t wan to do. (are we doing this to our children now?) Our minds learned that we are not in charge of our lives and we learned to do what we were told. As grownups, many just continue to feel this pressure from outside of themselves and follow the external dictates: you have to go to college; you should be a doctor; buy a house; wear this fashionable outfit; enroll your kids in a million activities. You get the picture.
Although it often feels like it, you are not a child anymore. You are in charge of your life and you can choose how you want to experience your time. So next time you hear yourself say, “I don’t have time…” catch yourself and ask who is in charge, “my child, or my adult who can evaluate what’s important to me and then choose accordingly.”
Whose life is it anyway?