I. Listening vs. Lecturing Children, like most of us, don’t like to be lectured. When a child does something “wrong,” the last thing he wants is to hear his parents’ authoritative voice rambling about his mistake. Children will naturally shut out their parents when they are lecturing to them. A child will respond positively to [...]

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How many times have you experienced the following scenario:  You are sitting with your loved one in a restaurant, on the couch in your home, or driving a car, and you are discussing something that seems benign and lighthearted.  Suddenly the discussion takes a turn and you find yourself in the middle of a heated [...]

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I am sure you have heard of the saying, “There is nothing you can’t do if you put your mind to it.” And I am sure a part of you believes that — in theory, but what the heck does it mean in practice? We all have things about ourselves we would love to change. [...]

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One of the most challenging tasks facing us is remaining aware and conscious in the moment.  I touched on this a little in the Live in the Moment blog, but here I want to focus on the conscious and awareness parts.  So much of my blog discussions involve helping you understand how the mind works [...]

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My intention with this blog is to pull together some of the salient points from the last four blogs and tie them all together to demonstrate an assertive response to anger.  Few of us are able to respond assertively to anger.  Most of us fall into one or more of the types of anger expressions [...]

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In prior blogs I have discussed two of the faces of anger.  Today I will cover the third one, passive anger.  People who express their anger passively usually direct it toward themselves.  They tend to blame themselves when things don’t go right or when they are in conflict with others.  They think very poorly of [...]

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As you know I am all about helping people connect to their feelings and showing how they affect their thoughts and actions. I have written many blogs about emotions, including emotional neighborhood, as well as developed AWARENESS, a mobile app that reminds you to connect with your feelings several times a day. As part of [...]

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As many of you know, I have stopped seeing private clients (well almost all of them:-) and have been devoting my time to systematizing and packaging much of my knowledge with the intention of reaching a much larger community. Yesterday, on Leap Day, my partner, Helen Kramer and I launched our leapforward.us community website.  It [...]

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Continuing with the discussion on anger, expression of passive-aggressive anger is probably the most difficult to harness and transform because it is the most elusive.  Individuals who express their anger with this style have a difficult time getting in touch with their anger and releasing it in any overt way.  Consequently, it is very challenging [...]

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“Holding onto anger is like grasping onto a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else.  You are the one who gets burned.” — Buddha The next several blogs are going to focus on the Emotional Universe.  My intention is to familiarize you with the emotional neighborhood that resides within you so [...]

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