Parenting

  1. Create a supportive environment that give parents a sense of feeling less alone and more optimistic about their abilities to parent
    1. Review their history of parenting and the lack of any meaningful guidance in helping them raise a healthy child
    2. Help them see the role their parents played in their parenting attitudes; embracing the constructive influences and avoiding the destructive ones
    3. Help them see their role as mentors and stewards in promoting their child’s physical, emotional and spiritual health
    4. Teach them about their child’s neurological, emotional and spiritual developments and needs
  2. Provide them with the tools to hear their child’s needs and how to meet those needs
  3. Encourage them to help their child explore and develop his or her own authentic sense of who s/he is
  4. Help them create a safe home environment which will foster an openness and a challenging space for the child to become self sufficient and independent

Dear Leor

Since a couple of dear friends have just had babies, I decided to reprint this letter I wrote to my son, Leor for his 30th birthday.  As a parent and a family counselor, I know how challenging it is to raise a child with little or no training or knowledge on what it takes to []

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Divine Spark

“There is a vitality, a life force, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and there is only one of you in all time, this expression is unique, and if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium; and be lost. The world will not have it.”                Martha Graham You []

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Pursuing your Purpose

Someone once told me that the definition of “coincidence” is God’s desire to remain anonymous.  It really resonated for me since there have been so many times in my life where chain of events were just too freaky to be viewed as mere coincidence.   It is happening again.  Ever since I declared that I []

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Free Will?

It is hard for us to believe that most of our behaviors have more to do with the way we are wired than with free choice. We generally live with a sense that we know what we are doing and why we are doing it. For most people, this is a false belief, stemming from []

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Which One of You is in Charge of Your Life?

How often do you find yourself in great conflict with two parts of yourself? The conflict may be about whether you should eat that chocolate cake, stay up or go to sleep early, turn off the TV and go pay the bills, keep your mouth shut and not answer your partner’s snide remark, or thousands []

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Wake Up!

Awareness is the key! I will keep reminding you of this most important tool. The objectives of my blog are to EDUCATE, INSPIRE and AWAKEN you.   Because we operate predominantly from our Reactive, pre-programmed Selves, we are mostly unconscious or asleep in our day to day life.  Unless we wake up from the automation []

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Mirror Neurons

In a prior blog I discussed my fear of bees and how I overcame it when I realized that I was exposing my son, Leor, to my fear.  I developed this fear because I saw my sister’s terrified reaction to getting stung by a bee.   The curious thing is that I developed that fear vicariously []

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The cost of reactivity to children

In past blogs I spoke about our Reactive and Creative Selves and our need to intercept the reactions and replace them with thoughtful responses.  There is no place that this intervention is more important than when we are dealing with our children.  Young children are greatly influenced by our verbal and non-verbal communication.  From a []

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Money

I was asked to blog about our relationship to money. It’s probably one of the most challenging and angst-producing issues in our lives. Whether we are rich or poor, this issue is poorly understood and handled by most of us. The reason is that nobody teaches us how to relate to money. Instead, we learn []

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Triggers

How many times have you experienced the following scenario:  You are sitting with your loved one in a restaurant, on the couch in your home, or driving a car, and you are discussing something that seems benign and lighthearted.  Suddenly the discussion takes a turn and you find yourself in the middle of a heated []

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